Do your emotions get in the way?
What happens when you find yourself REACTING to situations?
Living a spiritual life and having a human experience is an arduous task. It gets very complicated when feelings get in the way!!
I can have a great week – feel strong, connected, supportive and loving. When I am in this place it is easy not to take anything personally. I can take on a stressful personal situation and not get emotionally involved. In other words I am not weakened by the other persons’ drama. Instead I can reach out my arms for support, say a few kind or needed words – give courage and love and help the situation, help the other person feel better.
But what of the times when I do not realize I feel weak and I find myself in a stressful situation?
All of a sudden before I can process what is happening, my emotions react to the situation, my thoughts shift, everything appears to go downhill from there – I get caught up in the drama, am unable to express myself without getting muddled in the ‘feelings’ of it all; like being caught in a net!
Don’t get me wrong I am not looking to squash my feelings. Part of the human experience is one of having feelings- intense emotions at times (sometimes many times) and I AM human!
I feel – but I am not what I feel.
My feelings at that moment do not define me! My feelings are a barometer of my state at that time. I do not suggest that I am in control of these emotions. However, I do not want to be controlled by them either!
SO HOW DO I STAY ON THE PATH OF WELLBEING?
I practice the following important tips and healthy habits.
IMPORTANT TIPS ON AWAKENING THE WITNESS
- Take a moment and breath
Stop. Take a few deep and calming breaths. Stop thinking. This helps to stop fuelling the wave of emotions, which in turn feeds the mind chatter.
Awareness that you need to make a change is important. That you are co-creating the negativity is key to taking responsibility. This will allow for change to occur.
Finding this space allows for the witness to appear, when you set aside your ego.
- Find time alone
Sit quietly in silence or remove yourself from the situation. Sometimes fresh air and a walk are needed.
If I am a tightly wound ball of emotions I am not in a position to make a decision – to speak – because my thoughts are muddled.
Awareness is the first and most important step! Then I can begin to step aside, so to speak, and find the observer. My compassionate spirit clear and present in the moment is what I strive to identify with.
Creating healthy life long changes
The more often I can practice all that is good for me – meditation, affirmations, exercise, awareness, nutrition, speaking through love etc…. the less often I get lost in my emotions (and when I do) and the quicker I can connect with the witness and come back to a place of strength.
There are abundant tools about us that can help us create and stay on the path of wellbeing. I have named but a few and will continue to explore these and other tools I have incorporated into my life.
May you be well!